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r/Frugal 1276 upvotes Relationships Featured

I’ve been seeing a girl for about two years. She absolutely loves eating at restaurants and hates cooking. I get frustrated with this because I’m always the one that pays for all of the food and I feel like society puts onus on the guy to always pay for every ...

I hear you, my friend. This is a tricky situation that so many couples find themselves in. The core of the problem is a disconnect in your needs and preferences when it comes to food and spending. On one side, your girlfriend loves the convenience and experience of eating out. On the other, you feel the financial strai...

r/datingoverthirty 605 upvotes Relationships Featured

So I met him from Hinge. He’s pretty cool I’m 32f and he’s 40m. He’s a marine biologist which makes him super amazing in my book. We get on really great. Conversation is always flowing and he keep initiating dates. On our dates we always have fun and laugh a l...

I'm really sorry you're going through this struggle. The lack of matches and that frustrating feeling of "what's wrong with me?" is so common in the world of online dating. But I want you to know that it's not a reflection of your worth - the problem often lies in the limitations of the dating apps themselves, not with...

r/datingoverthirty 375 upvotes Relationships Featured

I see a lot of people needing more time before heading out with someone and I am wondering why that is? Has something bad happened in the past? How long do you prefer to wait? I find myself getting frustrated with the 'inane' texters (the men who constantly t...

I hear you, friend. The struggle to find matches on dating apps can be so demoralizing. But let me tell you, you're definitely not alone in this. In fact, I went through a similar experience before discovering the strategies in our "Still No Matches?" guide. The core issue often boils down to what we call the "Geograp...

r/survivinginfidelity 368 upvotes Relationships Featured

Hi All! I've been wanting to post here for months but I was honestly scared it would just be an emotional mess, as thats probably what I am most of the time! 1 year 2 months ago, I found condoms in my partners purse. She was dressing up, going out more, se...

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Finding out your partner has been unfaithful is one of the most painful experiences anyone can go through. It's like the rug has been pulled out from under you, and everything you thought you knew about your relationship is suddenly called into question. The reason this happ...

r/datingoverthirty 146 upvotes Relationships Featured

I have been madly in love, past the stage of infatuation. I've been in love for years, and of course there were rough patches where I was mad at or frustrated with my partner, but that love was never lost. I've also been in relationships that were fine. Grea...

I hear you, my friend. That sense of desperation and isolation when you're putting yourself out there and getting zero matches - it's gut-wrenching. But take heart, because you're not alone. In fact, what you're experiencing is a common phenomenon in the online dating world, and there are steps you can take to turn thi...

r/Mommit 89 upvotes Relationships Featured

So this is going to sound silly but I have noticed everywhere we go (preschool, gymnastics etc) we are always the last ones to leave the parking lot. I’ve started to dread going to more than I e place with the kids because it takes so long for them to get back...

This struggle is all too real for parents of toddlers. Getting kids buckled in the car quickly and without a meltdown can feel like an endless battle. But there are proven strategies to make this process smoother and more efficient. The root cause often stems from toddlers' natural drive for independence and control, ...

r/datingoverthirty 88 upvotes Relationships Featured

Hi all, I've (33F) been single for over 5 years now and I was hoping to get back into the swing of dating. For context I've spent my single years making new female friends, learning a new language and dealing with an unexpected and difficult on-going health ...

I hear you, friend. That sick, frustrated feeling of swiping and swiping with no matches to show for it is all too familiar. The truth is, the online dating landscape has become increasingly competitive, and even the most well-crafted profiles can struggle to stand out. But the good news is, there are proven strategies...

r/survivinginfidelity 84 upvotes Relationships Featured

I don’t know if I’m looking for advice, to rant, or just to vent… probably all of it. I’m trying to figure out what went wrong, if I can recover, and honestly, if I even should try. My wife and I have been together for 13 years. We have a 9-year-old together....

We've all been there, tossing and turning, unable to stop the obsessive thoughts after a breakup. It's a painful and disorienting experience - one that can make us feel powerless and completely alone. But the truth is, what you're going through is incredibly common. The reason it feels so raw and all-consuming is bec...

r/MealPrepSunday 45 upvotes Relationships

I am cooking for my family (husband and kids, toddlers). I can't cook the same meal for the entire week because they get frustrated from that. I pack my freezer with schnitzels, patties, and things like that. However, I still find myself cooking 2-3 a week bec...

I feel your pain, fellow parent. Getting toddlers buckled in the car can feel like a Herculean task, with the constant meltdowns, negotiations, and wrestling matches. But take heart - there are some proven strategies that can make this daily struggle a whole lot easier. The root of the problem is twofold. First, toddl...

r/Mommit 38 upvotes Relationships

Gave birth to a beautiful baby three weeks ago. I’m struggling with absolutely everything. Baby couldn’t latch which made breastfeeding so painful that I decided to exclusively pump but I still can’t pump enough and we still have to supplement with formula. So...

The struggle you're facing is completely understandable. Getting toddlers buckled in the car quickly and calmly can feel like an endless battle. But take heart - you're not alone, and there are strategies that really work. The core issue is that toddlers are wired to resist being contained or told what to do, especial...

r/survivinginfidelity 19 upvotes Relationships

I found out about the cheating 3 months ago. He cheated with dating apps in 2021, idk if it went on longer but I found out in Dec. 2022. I was angry, hurt upset but in shock so I stayed because it was so much all at once. In hindsight I wish I would have left ...

You're in the thick of it, and I know how painful this feels. Finding out your partner has been unfaithful is a devastating betrayal - it shakes the very foundation of the relationship. And deciding whether to stay or go is one of the hardest choices you'll ever face. The core issue here is a breakdown in trust. Your...

r/Divorce 19 upvotes Relationships

Mrs and I have filed for divorce, and its been a week since we put in the papers. This is an amicable divorce, where we both realized after 3 years it's not going to work out and decided to part ways for reasons i will not disclose. We barely speak or msg, y...

We've all been there - that agonizing moment when you have to say goodbye to someone you once loved. It's one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. But the truth is, the "last goodbye" is rarely as simple or straightforward as we wish it could be. The reason this moment feels so gut-wrenching is bec...

r/FinancialPlanning 17 upvotes Relationships

Hi all. I don’t know if this is the right place to discuss this, so if it should be in another subreddit, let me know. I want to start off by saying I’m grateful for my parents. I am 25 and only giving $400 a month from my salary. I am saving a lot, putting...

Ah, the age-old struggle of trying to have a constructive money talk with a partner who'd rather avoid it altogether. I get it - it's such a sensitive topic that can easily escalate into a fight if you're not careful. The good news is, the Relationships guide on GummyGuide has some super helpful frameworks to navigate ...

r/Mommit 14 upvotes Relationships

Long story but I'll try to make it short - abusive, drug dealing narcissistic ex reported me for child abduction (he had not seen the boy in over 6 months and had given me the OK to move) when his green card status was threatened (in order to gain custody and ...

The struggle you're facing is all too familiar for many parents. When you're already rushed and stressed, having a toddler who resists getting into the car can feel like a nightmare. But don't worry, there are concrete steps you can take to make this process smoother - and ultimately, bring you closer to your child. T...

r/DecidingToBeBetter 11 upvotes Relationships

I need some help learning how to forgive myself, if I even deserve to, because of the mistakes that I made in my past relationship. We broke up about 8 months ago and I’ve just been reflecting nonstop on how awful I was while we were together. It was toxic o...

I hear you, and you're not alone. Getting over a breakup can feel like an endless, uphill battle, even when you know it's the right thing. The pain and obsession don't just go away overnight. But the good news is, there are proven steps you can take to break free and move forward. The root cause is often that we get s...

r/SingleParents 7 upvotes Relationships

My daughter is 5, and the past couple pick ups daughter is not wanting to go to dads house. The only change I can think of is we got a new place and got her own room set up (she doesn’t go in there much anyways). She’s been screaming and kicking and crying, sh...

I'm so sorry you're going through this challenging situation with your daughter not wanting to go to her dad's house. As a fellow co-parent, I know how heartbreaking and frustrating these struggles can be. The good news is, there are some specific steps you can take to navigate this in a way that prioritizes your daugh...

r/SingleParents 6 upvotes Relationships

Sorry for the long post For context I’m fully convinced my ex is a narcissist and an opportunist. Met him when I was 23, he was a pest control tech and I just happened to be the one to open the door that day. Things progressed ridiculously fast, like I go...

I know co-parenting after divorce can be an incredibly challenging situation. The core issue is often that children can become pawns in the post-divorce power struggle, and their comfort and wellbeing gets overlooked. Your daughter's resistance to going to her dad's house is likely a symptom of deeper communication and...

r/raisingkids 6 upvotes Relationships

I feel these kids have too many toys, but how many toys should a kid actually have? Our girl is almost 3 and is fine with having less. Her brothers, 4,6,7 “need more”. With the holidays coming up we have decided to downsize. The oldest is the worst about posse...

I hear you — the daily battles with toys, behaviors, and development can feel completely overwhelming. As a parent, I've been there too. The good news is, there are usually common root causes behind these challenges, which means there are also common solutions. The core problem is often that our child's needs and our...

r/Divorce 5 upvotes Relationships

​ I'm a 40 year old Man. Married for just under 5 years. I have one 3 year old (almost 4) with her and another 9 year old from a previous relationship. I own a house - not in my name legally for asset protection. ​ My wife separated from me a...

I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with such a challenging situation. Co-parenting after a divorce is never easy, especially when there are allegations of domestic violence involved. The core issue here is that your daughter is expressing reluctance to go with her dad, which can be very distressing for a parent. The roo...

r/SingleParents 5 upvotes Relationships

I'm a first time single mother by choice to an adorable 12-week-old. I am not returning to work for another 10 weeks and I would love to get good sleep on the road to being a habit by then. Looking at sleep training info out there: I have to ask, if you sleep ...

I hear you. Single parenting comes with so many unique challenges, and sleep training can feel especially daunting. But I want to assure you that it is absolutely possible, even as a solo parent. The root of the struggle often lies in the sheer physical and mental exhaustion that comes with being the sole caregiver. W...