A real question from r/Divorce that deserves a real answer. Not generic advice — specific steps.
Mrs and I have filed for divorce, and its been a week since we put in the papers. This is an amicable divorce, where we both realized after 3 years it's not going to work out and decided to part ways for reasons i will not disclose. We barely speak or msg, yet I want to talk to her one last time before the divorce gets official. I want to thank her for all the good times we had, and apologize for the bad ones where I failed as husband. But, I don't know how to. I guess I'm looking for some sort of closure, and i know for a fact I will be wreck if I have the conversation with her. And I'm also going in with the expectation that she will relay the same message as I am, which if she doesn't, I know will bother me. On one end I want to have this conversation knowing the consequences, on th
Saying "goodbye" after divorce is excruciating due to the deep emotional attachment and loss of a cherished relationship. There is no easy way, but allowing yourself time to grieve can help find acceptance and closure.
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