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r/datingoverthirty 88 upvotes Relationships Featured

Hi all, I've (33F) been single for over 5 years now and I was hoping to get back into the swing of dating. For context I've spent my single years making new female friends, learning a new language and dealing with an unexpected and difficult on-going health ...

I hear you, friend. That sick, frustrated feeling of swiping and swiping with no matches to show for it is all too familiar. The truth is, the online dating landscape has become increasingly competitive, and even the most well-crafted profiles can struggle to stand out. But the good news is, there are proven strategies...

r/running 84 upvotes Life Skills Featured

I'm curious if anyone here incorporates mindfulness techniques into their running. I've found that I really benefit from meditation, and am realizing that I can incorporate some techniques into my runs. My goal is to finish up more mentally refreshed. My mind ...

I hear you - the struggle to build a consistent meditation practice is real. So many people start with good intentions, only to find themselves slogging through each session, just waiting for it to end. The root of the problem often lies in our natural human tendency to resist difficult emotions and experiences. We wan...

r/survivinginfidelity 84 upvotes Relationships Featured

I don’t know if I’m looking for advice, to rant, or just to vent… probably all of it. I’m trying to figure out what went wrong, if I can recover, and honestly, if I even should try. My wife and I have been together for 13 years. We have a 9-year-old together....

We've all been there, tossing and turning, unable to stop the obsessive thoughts after a breakup. It's a painful and disorienting experience - one that can make us feel powerless and completely alone. But the truth is, what you're going through is incredibly common. The reason it feels so raw and all-consuming is bec...

r/Meditation 80 upvotes Life Skills Featured

Hi everyone, 27F here. I really want to understand how I’m not my thoughts and what it means to be the observer. I’ve been dealing witb 2 weeks of horrible anxiety because I started getting violent intrusive thoughts against my loved ones after watching a crim...

I hear you, friend. The struggle of trying to build a sustainable meditation practice is all too real. It's easy to end up sitting there, counting down the minutes until the session is over. But the good news is, there's a reason this happens - and more importantly, there are steps you can take to overcome it. At the ...

r/consulting 77 upvotes Business Featured

Hey /r/consulting I work at a mid-size ERP provider (not SAP, Oracle, Microsoft, etc.) We're about a $300M a year company and our market is manufacturers. I started as a BDR and because of my performance was given the opportunity to start as a business con...

I know exactly what you're going through. Making the leap from corporate to solo consulting can be an exhilarating but daunting experience. The reality is, many new consultants get overwhelmed because they fail to establish a clear, compelling position in the market. They end up chasing any available work instead of ta...

r/gainit 76 upvotes Health Featured

I think many of us are here to get better bodies, feel confident and fuck girls. I just searched if someone had a story to share (e.g., complete loser, but gained X lbs and now he fucked a super hot girl for the first time, or something along those lines), but...

I'm really glad you brought this up. Struggling with self-confidence is such a common experience, but that doesn't make it any easier. The root of the problem is that we've been conditioned from a young age to judge our worth based on external factors - our job, relationship status, appearance, bank account, and so on....

r/povertyfinance 73 upvotes Health Featured

Felt demotivated today. Just suck hearing that Im smelly and my clothes look like shit. I can’t do anything about it, not because Im too lazy but I just literally cannot afford to get new clothes and had to get my office attire at thrift stores which are mostl...

I'm so sorry to hear that your coworker has been saying hurtful things about your appearance. It's natural to feel really hurt and demotivated when someone says cruel things like that. But remember, their words say more about them than they do about you. The underlying issue here is a lack of self-confidence - when we ...

r/consulting 71 upvotes Business Featured

I’m often conflicted, I get frustrated when specialists don’t see the impact of decisions up and downstream and I’m grateful I’ve went a more generalist route and can see the bigger strategic picture, but also struggle with the feeling I’m not good at anything...

I can totally relate to the struggle you're describing. It's so common for generalist consultants to feel overwhelmed and uncertain, especially when you're just starting out. The root cause is that without a clear, differentiated positioning, you end up trying to be all things to all people. This leads to a constant sc...

r/keto 70 upvotes Life Skills Featured

I've (32F) done keto 4 times in the past and it's always been super effective for me. This time I am seeing literally zero results and wondering if could be related to a diagnosis I just received? The first time I did it was for 8 months in 2014 and in conjun...

I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling with this. As someone who's been there, I know how frustrating it can be when keto stops working, especially when you're dealing with PCOS. The good news is, there are some specific things you can do to get back on track. The root issue here is that PCOS is a hormonal condition, ...

r/consulting 66 upvotes Business Featured

Recent discussion on exits: - Exits compilation - Management consulting exits (Wiki) - Tech consulting exits - Best time to exit - Guide to exiting - mod's note: somewhat extreme approach, but there's usefulness here If anyone wants to write an article ...

We've all been there - facing the uncertainty and self-doubt that comes with losing a job. It's an emotional rollercoaster, and the ripple effects can be far-reaching. But the reality is, this happens to countless professionals every day, often through no fault of their own. The real root cause usually lies in broader ...

r/bodyweightfitness 64 upvotes Fitness Featured

I’m new to fitness and I’m built like a stick with noodle arms. Im 5’5 130lbs. I can barely do 5 pushups with perfect form. I’m like out of breath with the 2nd push up and struggling on the 4th. So I started doing knee pushups which are way easier just so I ca...

I hear you, the struggle with no gym progress despite training is so real. It's frustrating when you put in the work but don't see the results you expect. The core reason this happens is often a mismatch between your training and your specific goals and body type. Pushups and bench press, while both great exercises, ma...

r/cscareerquestions 62 upvotes Business Featured

Hey everyone, I’m a software engineer with 5 years of experience, recently laid off. My stack includes React, Angular, Java with Spring Boot, and Node/Express. I’ve also worked with AWS and have decent CI/CD experience. On paper, it feels like I should be get...

Being laid off can feel devastating, like the rug has been pulled out from under you. But know that it's not a reflection on your abilities - in today's volatile job market, even talented professionals are sometimes casualties of corporate restructuring or economic downturns. The good news is, there are concrete steps ...

r/Fire 52 upvotes Finance Featured

Just like the headline states....early in retirement we have sequence risk of returns. Meaning the risk that if there were a large bear market early on, and we withdrawl on top of that, we could run out of money late in retirement. Makes 100% sense to me. B...

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling stressed about retirement planning. It's a common struggle, and the good news is there are some concrete steps you can take to gain clarity. The root cause of this confusion is that retirement planning involves a lot of moving parts - investments, taxes, healthcare, longevity, and mor...

r/freelance 50 upvotes Business Featured

To preface a little. I'm a freelancer (1YR) often working directly with founders/CEOs for design projects. And more often than not the relationship turns into using me like a crayon for their creative outlets. Most of my freelance gigs are highly visual and I...

Dealing with feedback from non-creatives is one of the most frustrating challenges for creative professionals. It's like trying to explain color theory to someone who only sees in black and white. The reality is, those who don't understand the creative process often miss the nuance and intention behind the work. The r...

r/Wordpress 50 upvotes Business Featured

Hey everyone, I’m a freelance web developer and recently started helping a small business owner, a concrete lifting company, move away from his previous web provider, LinkNow Media. He originally paid them for the full website design and build, and then stay...

I know how frustrating this situation must feel. It's a common problem that far too many businesses face - a client who disappears or refuses to pay after you've completed the work. But there are proven strategies you can use to get the money you're owed without damaging the relationship. The root cause often comes do...

r/freelance 47 upvotes Business

After quitting my toxic 9-5 job as a digital project lead for a startup 8 months ago I decided to try freelancing (UI/UX Design) on Fiverr as a side hustle. It took off unexpectedly and I started getting so busy with work that I became too overwhelmed and had ...

I hear you, my friend. The freelance journey is not an easy one, and self-doubt can creep in, especially when things go south unexpectedly. But know that you're not alone - many talented freelancers experience the same rollercoaster of feast-or-famine cycles and lost opportunities. The root of the problem often lies i...

r/nutrition 46 upvotes Fitness

Hitting a weight loss plateau is one of the most frustrating experiences on the journey to reaching your goals. It can feel like you've done everything right, but the scale just won't budge. The good news is, this is incredibly common - and there are proven strategies to get things moving again. The reason the body ho...

r/MealPrepSunday 45 upvotes Relationships

I am cooking for my family (husband and kids, toddlers). I can't cook the same meal for the entire week because they get frustrated from that. I pack my freezer with schnitzels, patties, and things like that. However, I still find myself cooking 2-3 a week bec...

I feel your pain, fellow parent. Getting toddlers buckled in the car can feel like a Herculean task, with the constant meltdowns, negotiations, and wrestling matches. But take heart - there are some proven strategies that can make this daily struggle a whole lot easier. The root of the problem is twofold. First, toddl...

r/Frugal 45 upvotes Life Skills

Life has been tough (especially financially and mental health wise) these past few years and it’s looking like one of my best options is to move back in with my parents who still live in the house I grew up in. This is obviously going to be as temporary as pos...

Relocating to a new city alone can feel incredibly daunting - the loneliness, the uncertainty, the logistical challenges. It's totally normal to feel a pit in your stomach when you think about packing up and starting over somewhere new. The root of this anxiety often comes from a phenomenon called "reverse homesickness...

r/FinancialPlanning 45 upvotes Life Skills

Hey everybody! Just need some guidance. My son had a circumcision around six months ago. We were told a number of how much it would cost by the hospital’s billing department and we have paid that amount. Since then we also received a separate bill from the ...

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this health insurance nightmare. It's incredibly frustrating when you do everything right and still end up getting screwed. Believe me, I've been there. The core problem is that health insurance companies are designed to make money, not to help you. They've created a complex system of...