A real question from r/depression. Not generic advice — specific steps.
For context: I’ve been diagnosed with adhd, autism, anxiety, depression, and ocd. I am 21 F I feel like I flip flop between trying to embrace my immaturity and trying to bury it. I’ve tried to “be myself” in that regard, but I ironically hate feeling like a child, because I feel like no one will think I’m anything more than that I feel like a broken teenager surrounded by actual functioning adults. I have 5 properly diagnosed disorders, I’ve never went to college and everything I learn is through video essays. I have no drivers license because I’m horrified of driving due to all my disorders. I have no job because I’m stuck waiting on my dad to help set up disability checks and I don’t wanna ruin my chances. I barely know anything about the world around beyond what I’ve learned through t
Feeling you never grew up like others is a common challenge. Everyone's journey is unique, so focus on your own progress rather than comparing to others.
Feeling like you never grew up the way everyone else did is a common challenge many people face, especially as they transition into adulthood. It's important to recognize that everyone's journey is unique and there is no one-size-fits-all timeline for personal growth and development. What matters most is that you stay true to your own path and focus on your own progress, rather than comparing yourself to others. The first step is to have self-compassion and avoid being too hard on yourself. Recognize that the process of growing up is complex and nonlinear - there will be ups and downs, progress and setbacks. Be patient and kind with yourself as you navigate this journey. Celebrate the small wins and don't get discouraged by the challenges. Next, try to identify the specific areas where you feel you haven't grown up as quickly as others. Is it financial independence, emotional maturity, career advancement, or something else? Once you pinpoint the issue, you can take targeted action to address it. This might involve seeking out mentors, taking classes, or making lifestyle changes to help you move forward. Remember, growing up is a lifelong process, not a race. Focus on your own timeline and needs, not on what everyone else is doing. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who can encourage you and help you stay motivated. With self-compassion, intentional effort, and a willingness to learn and grow, you can absolutely develop the skills and confidence you need to thrive as an adult, in your own unique way.
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