Posted in r/gainit with 76 upvotes. This hits home for a lot of people — here's the real answer.
I think many of us are here to get better bodies, feel confident and fuck girls. I just searched if someone had a story to share (e.g., complete loser, but gained X lbs and now he fucked a super hot girl for the first time, or something along those lines), but I found none. So, does any of you have something to share? A few pointers to guide you if you want to share but isn't in the mood to think a lot: How much you gained since girls started mirin' you? At which point you knew you were better looking than 90% of the male population? Did you find easier to pick up girls after you packed on muscle? Tell us the story ;) Edit: Okay, this post got way bigger than I expected it to be. I'M AWARE that this sounds lame. Specially the "phuck bishes" part, which is very bodybuilding.com-esque
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