A real question from r/Fire that deserves a real answer. Not generic advice — specific steps.
My husband is very smart, good at math, and a natural saver. Still, he finds personal finance kind of boring - he wasn't investing in his 401k when we met (16 years ago), had some debt, didn't understand tax brackets, etc. He just never put any time into learning about that stuff. We talked through a lot of these things over the years, and he mainly took my advice. We do our taxes together and are both involved in our finances - but I've definitely taken the lead. Now we are pretty much at our FIRE number. We're not quite ready to retire yet, but we are talking about it. I really feel like he needs to understand more about some of the basic FIRE concepts (safe withdrawal rates, Roth conversions, SORR, ACA subsidies, etc.) before we retire. Also he should understand this stuff ...
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